Sometimes it's like walking on egg shells when I want to talk to my sister. Sometimes when you talk to her, she's cheerful and laughing, and the conversation is enjoyable. Other times, you say one thing to her and she snaps at you. So, today I decided that I'm no longer going to let it slide. I got tired of being yelled at for practically nothing. Here's what happened: Today, we went bowling, as we were invited to an event the playwright group we were in was hosting. My sister wasn't around to hear what lanes we were playing on, so when she came back, I explained to her that "we're on lanes 17, 18, 19 and 20." Well, she yelled at me and said "Don't talk to me like I'm two years old, Aaron!" I said back to her "I don't want to deal with your attitude right now." And from then on, things were good between us.
But, for me, that wasn't enough. So today after I did my work, I decided to talk to her about that. The thing is when I explain things to her, and possibly other people, I tend to slow my speech down. It's a bit of an involuntary thing. I think it's because I don't want to end up talking too fast, mumble and have someone not hear me. Or maybe it's because I'm trying to keep a level head in the situation while she's all flared up. Anyway, I decided to explain that to her. It went a little something like this:
Me: Look, when I explain things to you, I don't mean for it to sound like I'm treating you like a child. Something in my brain just tells me that I should speak slow and clearly so you hear what I'm saying...and I'm speaking in that voice right now, aren't I?
Her: Yes, you are. And, I don't get why you're bringing it up now when you usually let it slide.
Me: Because I'm tired of your attitude.
Her: WELL I'M TIRED OF YOU TALKING TO ME LIKE A BABY!
Me: I told you! I don't mean to sound like that! Just something in my mind tells me to speak like that because I'm afraid if I don't, I'll slip up and mumble.
Her: I DON'T GET WHY, THOUGH! YOU TALK TO ME ALL THE TIME WITHOUT USING THAT VOICE, AND WITHOUT MUMBLING, SO WHY CAN'T YOU DO IT IN THOSE MOMENTS?
Me: Again, I don't mean to sound like that. It just happens! I don't ever mean to upset you.
Me: I'm sorry!
And that was the end of it. I love my sister, and at this point in our lives, I wouldn't do something to upset her on purpose. I want to be able to talk to my sister without her getting upset. I guess I'll try to work on explaining things in my regular tone of voice. Or maybe I shouldn't. I don't know. She doesn't believe me when I tell her that I don't mean to talk to her like that.
*EDIT* Things have been resolved for now. Mom was the middle man in the situation, and we decided that if my sister gets upset, we drop it, or if I start talking in that tone of voice, my sister should let me know and we'll end it right there before things get out of hand.